8 Things For 28 Years

Turing 28 is so weird. I will be honest, I thought that by 28 my life would be so different. I thought I would be married with one or two kids….lol I can’t even; and that I would be living in a house with my husband and children. Oh and that I would be a high school teacher. That was all I wanted from life, nothing more, nothing less. Instead life has dealt me something completely different. As I sit here writing this on the eve of my 28th birthday, here are the things I have accomplished. I have a bachelor’s degree, a master’s degree, and a diploma, in that order, with hopes of one day getting a Phd before I'm 40. I have my blogging business and I am starting a hair and skincare business with my childhood friends. I live in one of the best cities in the world, although I am such a home body. I am independent and I have been since I was 16 years old, working and paying for my own things. A husband is nowhere in sight and children are so far off in the future. As I reflect on this age and knowing that I got nothing I had hoped for, and that instead I got other things, it is a bittersweet moment. I will tell you that I have spent every birthday from 21-27 crying because my life didn’t turn out the way I pictured it. But this year, I made a promise to myself that I will not do that.

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Instead, I promise to really celebrate what my life has become. I am healthy, happy, I have a good family and great friends, and I am following my passion. And also I have decided that kids are definitely something that will be tackled in my thirties, which is only two years away and that love is something that will happen when it happens. But all this to say is that, I am promising myself that 28 will be the year where I maintain positivity, love, inspiration, and find happiness within myself and life. So here are 8 things I have learned in 28 years.

Life doesn’t go as planned, so many things will happen that will suck or take you by surprise. Nothing is perfect and it can be very hard.

True happiness is real. Happiness is something you have to create yourself and it takes time but it is so real. Also happiness doesn’t mean that life is perfect, it just means that you can make the best of bad situations and that when something really good happens, you know how meaningful and wonderful it is, so you celebrate it.

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The first part of your twenties are tough because you really know nothing but everyone expects you to. The middle part of your twenties are soul searching and you have to learn what having a voice means, you also start to get more comfortable with yourself. So basically, your early twenties suck but it gets better, lol....it does, I promise.

Love is an amazing and awful thing. I find that the older I get, the more I understand myself and what I want in a relationship. I also don’t have crushes as much as I used to and when you meet the right person you just know. But heart break is real and it hurts and there is nothing worse than being in love with someone who is with someone else.

Family and close friends are everything. One thing I have learned over the years is the importance of family and friends and how they hold you together.  Also, how important it is to let go of friends who aren’t good friends. When you're young, your friends mean everything to you so you focus on them even when they aren’t good to you and the thing I have learned in my twenties is that, letting go of bad friends and holding on to good friends is the way to go.

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One thing my twenties have taught me so far is how important it is to follow your passion. You live so you can do the things you are passionate about. This is what I have found and the thing is, even if your passion doesn’t make you money, you do it anyway because it makes you happy.

Learn to let go of toxicity. As you grow up, you will begin to see the things people or things bring into your life. Sometimes, they bring bad things and you have to learn to let those people go. You also notice that there are things you do that bring negativity into your life; and as you grow, you begin to understand that and you start letting those things go. 

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Surprising yourself and seeing the "greyness" in everything. When your young you only see things as right or wrong, black or white and you rarely take time to see what's in the middle. I have found that as I get older, I focus on the middle and the "greyness" of everything because nothing is ever black and white. 

So, that's everything I have learned over these years. Hoping that this year will be filled with only great things for you and me!


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